My monsters are not your monsters.
And that’s okay.
There are things and people in this life that I dislike. I have my reasons. My reasons are typically not impulsive, nor uninformed. Yet, I acknowledge, they are coloured by my subjective truth, my own experiences, my own predisposing pains and losses.
I have nothing invested in convincing you of my monsters. I don’t need you to buy into my fear/anger/indignation to validate those feelings. I feel them. I own them. They are mine. All ask is that you acknowledge that I have the feelings, and support me in the experience of feeling them.
Similarly, I don’t need to believe in your monsters to validate that you are afraid/angry/hurt. If you express that to me, I will validate that experience — which is very real for you, and sit with you through it.
In my own time, on my own terms, I may come to (metaphorically) slay these monsters. Or even make friends with them. I am open to lessons learned and growth achieved. I am capable of change. When I am (or you are) ready.
I propose a shift, so we can better support one another. Less condemnation of reasons, more hand-holding through emotions.
Know what I mean?